Encouraging Edifying Conversations During Hospitality

Unique lives sit face to face across a table. Each possessing a heart that naturally yearns for love, friendship, and acceptance. Part of the beauty of hospitality is the conversation that is shared. The lives that open up and glean wisdom from one another. The hope imparted as we share a bit of our lives with others. Our conversation can easily focus on the lasted news, gossip, or film, but with a little preparation, they can be edifying and inspiring. Pray that the Lord would direct your conversation. The prayer is that our guests would leave the doors of our homes being encouraged and built up in their faith or with seeds of God’s love planted in their hearts.

Here are some helpful questions to guide you in your conversations during hospitality. Often times, I simply pick two to three questions from this list, depending upon the audience. You only need a few to get you started and then conversation will flow more naturally. Great ice breakers in a sense. If we simply ask questions of our guests and inquire about their stories, the Lord can open up awesome opportunities to minister to their needs.

People love sharing their stories, so it doesn’t really take much actual talking on your part. Just offer a listening ear and a heart sensitive to the Spirit, and see what God can do.

Thanks to GirlTalk for these helpful starters.

Hospitality Questions (Downloadable PDF)

Questions to Get to Know People Better

1. Where did you grow up?
2. Where did you go to school and what did you study?
3. How did you meet your spouse and how long have you been married?
4. What dreams do you have for the future?
5. What is one thing you have never done that you wish you could do?
6. What is the most important thing you have accomplished in your life?
7. What do you enjoy doing with your spare time?
8. If you could do anything other than what you are doing now, what would you do?
9. Ask questions about their work, their kids, where they like to vacation or their favorite foods.
10. What books are they currently reading?

Questions for Biblical Fellowship

1. What is one thing you could do this year to increase your enjoyment of God?
2. In which spiritual discipline do you most want to make progress this year and what are you doing to this end?
3. Who is one person you would like to spend time with asking questions about their relationship with the Lord?
4. What is one new way you could help strengthen the church?
5. What is one thing you could do to improve your prayer life?
6. What habit would you most like to establish this year?
7. Who do you most want to encourage this year?
8. What book, in addition to the Bible, do you most want to read this year?
9. In what area of your life do you most need growth and what will you do about it?
10. What one biblical doctrine do you most want to understand better this year?

Questions to Get to Know Internationals Better

1. What country are you from?
2. Can you describe your daily life and family traditions in your home country?
3. What was your education like and what are your interests?
4. What are your impressions of our country?
5. Were you brought up in a religious home?
6. What foods are unique to your country?/ what food from our country do you enjoy?
7. Would you teach me a few words in your native language?
8. Are there any questions you would like to ask me?
9. What are your special holidays and how do you celebrate them?
10. Is there any way I can serve you?

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About Lindsay

Lindsay Edmonds is first a lover of Jesus, wife, mother of four, homemaker, and writer. She loves inspiring women around the world toward simple, natural, and intentional living for the glory of God.

8 Responses to Encouraging Edifying Conversations During Hospitality

  1. Luann April 19, 2011 at 8:11 pm #

    the 2nd set of questions are invaluable for friendships and mentor relationships.

  2. Luann April 19, 2011 at 8:09 pm #

    these are great. i deal with social anxiety and need one liners like this. i really could use some one liners for those few minutes in church where you ‘meet and greet’. i want something more then ‘is this your first time here?’ ‘are you new to the area?’. i want something of substance and depth. any ideas?

    • Lindsay April 20, 2011 at 12:52 pm #

      I am sure you could use many of these questions above in such as situation. I often stick to the basics of getting the know you questions because time is limited in such a setting. Maybe after the service you can get more into the substance and depth ideas. I am sure you could add: how did the learn reveal Himself to you this week? Are you reading any good books? What one thing did you learn from the Bible this week? How can I pray for you?

  3. Linda April 16, 2011 at 8:54 am #

    Thanks for the list of questions. I love people and love to chat, but as an introvert am often quiet and unsure about what questions to ask. This is great. :)


  4. Becky April 15, 2011 at 7:22 pm #

    Awesome questions! I sometimes have no idea what to say to people to make them feel comfortable and welcome (whether in my home or at church when meeting someone new). This is such a great tool!

  5. Jessica April 15, 2011 at 6:38 pm #

    Wonderful list! Now I just have to memorize it: It will certainly come in handy, because I often feel at a loss for what to say.

  6. Katie T. April 15, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

    Lindsay, these are great! We’ve just recently been talking more in our small group about being more intentional about living missionally and hospitality is such a huge part of that. People are not used to having real, meaningful conversations anymore, so really asking about life can make such an impact and help open hearts!

  7. Trina April 15, 2011 at 5:29 pm #

    Lindsay, this is great! As one who loves to get into the deeper side of fellowship as quickly as possible, I know I will be using these prompts next time I have company.

    I love how this series has me thinking about hospitality and “who can I have over next week?” :)