Balancing Nutrition And Priorities – Part 1

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With the bombardment of choices for us mothers to make in regard to our health and nutrition at the table and in our lifestyle, it is becoming more and more difficult to keep a proper balance between our pursuit of nutrition for the health and wholeness of our family and the reality of what we can truly manage. I have been noticing an increased obsession with health and food in my generation that has been concerning, especially among young mothers. We don’t realize that something is being sacrificed at the idol of health.

As I have been part of this real food movement over the last few years, I have come from truly enjoying learning new things about our health and food choices and eager to serve and provide the best for our family, to becoming obsessed with worry (what are these ingredients and what can they do to our body?) and frustration over our food budget and what the long-term impact of our decisions could result in. Now I’ve come to a place of peace. I have freedom because I am letting go of control. After my original writing of Can Natural Living Become an Idol? several months ago, and the positive response received from others going through similar struggles, I wanted to add further help by giving some principles from which we can achieve peace and balance in the wave of food and health decisions.

It can be so frustrating researching every food product and finding such a mix of opinions and research going both ways. Should you soak or not? What products are really safe? With the expansion of the internet, there is just no end to resources saying the pros and cons of every food and body product item in your home.

Reality came home for me when a close family friend died of cancer this past summer. She had been the leading example in my life of the ultimate Nourishing Traditions follower. My eyes were opened. Health will not save you. It truly cannot preserve one day of your life.

We need to be careful that we don’t elevate health so high that we expect it to keep us from the kind of health problems our parents’ generation suffered because it will not save us. Fear is a deadly enemy. It is consuming. It entangles. It takes our focus away from the importance of demonstrating Christ’s love to a hurting world.

As mothers, we are extremely susceptible to comparing ourselves with others standard of health and nutrition. To become overwhelmed because we cannot afford all organic products. To stress because we have so much to learn. Health and nutrition cannot become our “functional Savior.”

Dear sisters, let’s step back again. Let’s review our priorities. What does it come down too? The importance of love. Loving the Lord with all our hearts and loving our neighbors as ourselves. I love how Natalie at Guarded by the Gospel shares it here,

So what should my be priorities be as I shop and cook and eat?

First, and ultimately, our pleasure is in God, in Jesus Christ. Psalm 16:2 says, “I say to the LORD, ‘You are my Lord; I have no good apart from you.’” Jesus said God’s greatest commandment was to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind.” (Matt. 22:39) God deserves his place. Anything that supplants our total and ultimate love toward him is…an idol.

How do I know when I’ve made an idol out of something?

My whole life revolves around that one thing.

I plan around it.

I obsess about it.

I freak out if it’s taken away from me.

I think about it all the time.

My relationships revolve around it.

I think it makes me ok, on track.

And…(Here comes the hard part) …When it causes me to break the second greatest commandment, “love your neighbor as yourself.”

Funny how idolizing something (breaking that first commandment) makes you break the second too!

I have made an idol out of nutrition (or whatever!) when I continually elevate it as a priority above loving the people around me the way I would like to be loved.

Let me say that serving healthy wholesome food for your family is important. We want to be healthy and fit for the Lord’s use. We are responsible as do the best that we can. It is an act of love, but when you are spending so much time in your kitchen, planning, shopping, preparing, that you miss those moments of loving on your little ones, then we have missed the boat. When people start saying that parent’s who feed junk food to their children don’t really love them, we are going too far. What’s more significant in the kingdom? The physical or spiritual food we serve?

When our family dinner times are lacking peace because we are constantly trying to get our little ones to eat this healthy food which they may not enjoy, then something needs to change. I didn’t like my veggies as a child, but did I suffer much? No, I love them now and the striving and fighting isn’t worth it.

“Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things (food, shelter, the essentials) will be added unto you.” (Matt. 6:33).

Natalie continues, 

Always cooking and eating healthy food will not make you truly healthy. Having a heart full of life-giving, generous, lay-down-your-life love will.

“Do you not see that whatever goes into a person from outside cannot defile him, since it enters not his heart but his stomach, and is expelled?” And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him.” (Mark 7:18-20)

True health and wholeness can only be experienced through Jesus Christ.

Check out part 2 here

About Lindsay

Lindsay Edmonds is first a lover of Jesus, wife, mother of four, homemaker, and writer. She loves inspiring women around the world toward simple, natural, and intentional living for the glory of God.

106 Responses to Balancing Nutrition And Priorities – Part 1

  1. EE December 14, 2010 at 4:40 pm #

    After listening to a program on Revive Our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, I have been praying for God to show me the idols in my life. I was shocked when He actually did. It was painful to agree with Him. And yet, somehow, I already knew (but was unwilling to admit) what I was idolizing. Two days ago, He opened my eyes to one big idol. And your post today confirmed for me what God was already showing me about another idol in my life. Thanks for sharing the wisdom God has given to you! :)

  2. Rebekah December 14, 2010 at 3:48 pm #

    Lindsay, I loved this post and all the thoughtful comments that have been posted by your readers. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought of your “When Natural Living Becomes An Idol” post from several months ago and I was about ready for a “booster shot” along the same lines this week. Just like every other social trend, the movement to restore wholesome food has been taken to extremes by some, though no doubt with the very best of intentions. I especially appreciated your words about hospitality and the importance of a gracious attitude toward others. This is sooooooooo important! If we fall into the trap of isolating ourselves from others through our obsession with a perfect diet and lifestyle, we will miss what is truly fulfilling.

    Something else that occured to me as I was thinking about this issue is that food was not created for nourishment only. Food should not be viewed as just a bunch of isolated nutrients that we consume for energy or to prevent disease or to live 100 years (although those are all worthy goals). Food was created for our enjoyment! There’s a reason why certain foods taste good to us! Traditionally, food has been a major component that binds societies together. If we divorce the utilitarian usefulness of food from the social and communal importance of eating and celebrating food together, then we’ll be missing out.

    Balance is possible!

  3. Megan December 14, 2010 at 2:34 pm #

    Excellent, excellent post Lindsay, you are such an encouragement to me to seek the Lord with ALL my heart in everything I do, thank you.

  4. Amber December 14, 2010 at 1:40 pm #

    Thank you, thank you! This is just what I needed to hear today. I’ve been struggling with this lately and not sure what to do. Thanks for the reminder of being in the Word and keeping our focus in the right place! Blessings to you!

  5. Nisha December 14, 2010 at 1:15 pm #

    Wow! Thanks again for sharing as well as including the excerpt from Natalie. At the moment, since I just has our second baby, my husband is in charge of cooking. Some of the selections he has made has been foods I would leave at the store and just make from scratch. But now he is running the kitchen, at first, I was concerned (worried!) about our eating habits, but really..there is nothing to worry about. He is serving us out of love and providing nourishing meals for his family! Your post just confirmed a lot of things for me, and gave me a lot to think about. Although I love to eat healhty and desire to feed my family the best, I have to continue to examine myself with the word of God…because if I am not pleasing to Him..this is fruitless!

  6. Mommy December 14, 2010 at 12:30 pm #

    Good reminder Lindsay. I yet have so much to learn about balance. In my house I don’t spend too much time planning meals, because I found out early that I am happiest in the kitchen when I keep my meals simple and healthy. Before I would make soup, meat dish, carb dish,and a salad and it would take me 4-5 hrs to make it all and I was not happy. One day by “accident” I learned a lesson. What is wrong with having just soup with bread and p-nut butter sandwhich with tea for dinner? OR having breakfast for dinner once in a while?

    During this busy season it just happened that we got ourselves involved in few church events and it took so much of my time and although it was just for 3 weeks, it drained my time away from reading the Word and quality time with my family. Although I don’t regret helping out , it was an eye opener for me. The busyness took the joy out of me. Don’t get me wrong– I thrive being busy but not when it takes away quality time with God and family. Maybe I did not have the right mindset from start? One thing I did learn this week was that I needed balance in involvement, balance in friendships, balance in how much I say to who, even balance in being “too nice.” Your blog is the first one I chk every morning and can’t wait for your next post. God Bless you and our family.

  7. Karen December 14, 2010 at 12:01 pm #

    thank you for this! it’s good to be reminded of what my priorities really need to be!

  8. Lindsey @harpersvillehome December 14, 2010 at 11:43 am #

    Lindsay! Thank You for writing this. I’m faced with the facts of my family right now. My father and grandfather got colon cancer at the same age. All of my Dad’s uncles had colon cancer. As my father is undergoing treatment now, they were able to determine that his cancer was undoubtedly genetic. They wanted me to know to start getting checked at 30 – -6 years from now . In other words, it’s almost “certain” that I will get colon cancer in the next 25 years. It weighs on my mind. Every time I take a bite of something that isn’t a leaf I feel almost guilty….like I’m killing my colon one day at a time. You’ve helped remind me today that God already knows the day I’m going to pass away and move on from this life and how it’s going to play out. Even science seems to corroborate that thought because it has been determined that the human heart only has a certain number of beats. You could be in superior health and one day, bam…heart stops. Every heart is different. Why obsess about food? To live longer and avoid disease, to feel better, healthier, more energetic..gasp, dare I say some people eat that way to get “skinny?” We are going to die. ..at some point. There’s no guarantee that it will be something your choices in food helped with or not! How much more damaging to go through life worrying yourself over every little food choice? How much more harmful is that kind of stress on the body? And how much more distant from God in the process? It’s just all led me to take a day at a time, doing what I can to be healthy that day and not treating food choices as though they are life changing decisions. Maybe some decisions are life changing, but surely, white pasta every now and again probably isn’t going to be my demise as I sometimes worry it will be… A life changing decision would be something that affects what you’re going to be doing AFTER you die!!!! This is so temporary, and sometimes, we (I) treat it like it’s permanent. Thanks for your wisdom today!!

    • Katie December 14, 2010 at 11:42 pm #

      I find myself in the same place right now. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer eight years ago. She is the first person in her family in five generations not to have died of cancer. Literaly every single grandparent, aunt, uncle and cousin died of some form of cancer. She is also has many other serious health conditions. Yet she along with my aunt who had breast cancer and my cousin who has throat cancer along with myself have the healthiest diets in the family. My goal is to simply eat the best I can in order to live life to the fullest for as many years as God has determined. I don’t know how many that will but I want to know that I have served God with my all, while caring for my precious girls. My family has talked about getting tested to see if you have a “cancer gene”, I’m not sure I want to do that or not. The odds are already against me. Yet I still hope that through a healthy, nourishing life style that could prevent the diseases that I may one day have. I’m not perfect, there are days when I don’t soak my rice or oats or where I use a microwave but I just try to do the best I can.

  9. Leanne December 14, 2010 at 11:05 am #

    Thank you so much for sharing this! It is so true and how often we forget our true focus!

  10. Mona @ Healthy Homesteading December 14, 2010 at 10:55 am #

    Lindsay,
    This is a great post. I wholeheartedly agree. I have had to keep myself from becoming obsessed with healthy living lately. What I have decided about health is this. God has our days numbered, so eating healthy may not keep us from dying or from sickness. However, the way we spend our days on earth have a lot to do with our choices. We know that eating greasy fried foods, tons of sugar or even just too much food makes us feel poorly. It weighs us down and makes us unproductive. And we also know that eating healthy and taking care of our bodies makes us feel better. God provided life sustaining, disease fitting foods for us to eat because He loves us. Yet, we often choose to eat food that we know won’t nourish us. When we choose to eat foods that are healthier, in essence we are thanking our creator for providing for us.
    I also understand that no amount of healthy eating will keep me from dying of disease if my God chooses for me to leave this world with it. Through our suffering God can be glorified and lives can be changed so we need to see disease as an opportunity to show others how good God is because we know there is a heaven awaiting us that has no suffering. We also need to show others by example that our lives can be joyful and vibrant if we take care of our bodies and follow Christ (following Christ being the key to joy).

    Can’t wait to read part 2 :)

  11. Christy December 14, 2010 at 10:50 am #

    I am currently reading the transcripts of Bob Lepine’s teaching at True Woman on this very topic…so it’s very timely. I agree and thank you for speaking the truth gently.

    http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/roh/today.php?pid=10712

  12. Jennifer December 14, 2010 at 10:50 am #

    Thank you so much for writing this! This is one of the best articles I have ever read. You really spoke to my heart, as I am really struggling with this issue right now. I have a newborn son, and I want to serve nutritious, organic, whole foods for every meal, but I know my priority right now is taking care of my baby and spending time with him. I can’t do it all, and I want our food to serve us, not the other way around.

  13. Hannah @ Treasuring It Up December 14, 2010 at 10:44 am #

    Just like so many here, this is so needed! Going to a birthday party a few days ago, I was thankful for the ability to enjoy the company and celebration rather than stressing over the *gasp* refined sugar/flour and artificial dyes! It has been liberating, especially during the Christmas season. The last thing I want is to stress out others in their hospitality through my own choices in food. It is something I have to remind myself over and over…and I know I’ve failed many times, but God has deemed all things good to eat.

  14. Ann Dunagan December 14, 2010 at 10:32 am #

    What an excellent, heart-felt article!!! I really feel that this message is needed, especially among young mothers in the church. Thanks for taking the time to share it!

    Blessings to you, Lindsay, and to your ministry and work here at Passionate Homemaking!!!

  15. Deanna December 14, 2010 at 10:17 am #

    After your post on natural living becoming an idol, we had a few months where things got really tough and we had to buy groceries from something called The Treasure Box which is definitely not organic and does include a couple of processed foods. Remembering that post, it was almost as if I could hear God whispering in my ear, “It’s OK. I HAVE GIVEN YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED.” And He did give us everything we needed and then some, even if it wasn’t all natural and organic. We still had veggies in our garden and He provided us food and we were never hungry nor sick. When He gives us the ability, we go back to eating organic. So what if this month He provided us with fruits and vegetables that aren’t organic, maybe next month, but at least we have food and we can choose to eat it as close to the way He created it as possible.

  16. Shaye Elliott @ The Elliott Homestead December 14, 2010 at 10:12 am #

    What a great reminder that the Lord truly holds our lives in His hands. And that’s exactly where I want mine to be, at the mercy of God for every moment. Thank you for this wonderful post.

  17. Pam December 14, 2010 at 10:11 am #

    Very well said – it is so easy to think that you can “cure everything” based upon eating a certain way, and we need to remember that cooking and eating is not the most important thing in our lives, nor should it be!

  18. Ami December 14, 2010 at 10:03 am #

    I think about your “Idol” post all the time and I think it has really kept my heart in check. Thank you! There are three things that I try to balance our eating with:

    But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33

    Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Matthew 6:25

    And less profound, a framed embroidery I found at a yard sale this summer. It’s hanging in my kitchen and it says, “A pinch of salt, a pound of love, is what great meals are all made of.”

    I think I love your blog so much because every since I started reading it, you’ve tried to keep this balance. It is a blessing from God!

  19. Adica December 14, 2010 at 10:03 am #

    I was so glad you wrote about this the first time, and I’m just as glad about this post. Funnily enough, it reminds me of a Simpsons episode where they also made this point in a very Simpsons-like way (to the point where some of the mothers on the show took their children to the hospital for drinking a sip of juice out of a #7 plastic cup).

    The key thing to remember about health and nutrition is that it’s all about exposure. Eating one meal at a friend’s house that has been cooked on Teflon is not nearly the same as using Teflon for every meal. Eating hot food off of a plastic plate is not the equivalent of chewing on lead. It’s not going to kill you to do something “unhealthy” every once in a while. Having a bad diet comes from eating unhealthily every time you eat.

    Many people come from the perspective of being mothers wanting to provide a healthy life for their children, and I understand the concern, but let me ask you this: Would you rather your child grows up to be an “unhealthy” wonderful, loving person or a “healthy” hateful, selfish person? Obviously these are two extremes and a child can certainly grow up to be a healthy wonderful person, but it does make a person question their priorities. If you’re so busy teaching your child how to eat that you don’t have time to put any emphasis on how to live, are you really doing your child any favors in life? So they’ll theoretically be able to live to be 120, but they’ll have no friends.

    Diet is only one part of living a healthy life, and obsessing about food tends to lead to eating disorders, as well. What priorities do you want to teach your children?

  20. Kate @ Modern Alternative Mama December 14, 2010 at 9:44 am #

    I don’t fully agree with this….

    I do agree that natural living should not be an idol. We should ALWAYS strive to do our best to feed our families but compromise is okay. And we should always look to the Lord first and keep His commandments. It’s important to love others and bless them and sometimes, forget about food for awhile. I wrote about this on my blog last week, striking balance over the holidays when with family who are not into real food. Because family does trump food.

    But, to say that “we cannot add a single day to our lives” is untrue. Yes, our days were written before we were born, but we STILL have free will. Satan can still tempt us and lead us astray, in myriad ways. If we fall into a life of drunkenness, we could die early in a car accident, much to God’s distress, because we walked away from Him. We can’t make our lives LONGER than the Lord wrote, but we can make them as long as the Lord allows by making good choices.

    And I think that if we keep eating in its proper place, which is a way of keeping ourselves healthy and honoring the bodies that God gave us, then we are doing the right thing. It is about priorities. But the way this is written, it almost sounds like you want to give up because it “just doesn’t matter,” and I don’t think that’s true at all.

    • Karen December 14, 2010 at 2:06 pm #

      I agree. You said some great things here, Lindsay! But it does sound a bit too deterministic. God is Sovereign. We cannot catch God by surprise or thwart his ultimate plans. Since he exists outside of time, our own decisions for better or worse do not catch him by surprise. However, it is very biblical to say that our actions have a profound effect on how our lives play out. One example: Honor your father and mother, that you may live long in the land the Lord your God has given you. I heartily agree that “natural living” can become an idol for the believer. Satan looks for ANY way to pull our gaze away from the Lord. So even good things can turn sour (I’m thinking Abraham and Isaac here). However, choosing to cook nourishing food for myself is an important way that I can equip myself for whatever the Lord calls me to. Cooking nourishing food for my family is an act of sacrificial service and helps to prepare THEM for their own God-given purposes. Making this choice could mean that I am prolonging their lives, and service to the Lord. Now having said that, could the Lord choose to call one of them home tomorrow? None of the healthiest cooking in the world could prevent this sovereign decision from the Lord. So I guess what I’m saying is that the situation is a little more complex than you presented it. Truthfully, I was sharing with my husband a similar struggle just last night. I have three small children and would love more, but as it is I realize that there is not enough of me to cover all the needs our family has: truly nourishing meals, time with each child, homeschooling my oldest, keeping the house clean. It’s a clean house that usually falters first. My husband is self-employed, so when money is really tight, our meals don’t get less nourishing, they just get cheaper. Cabbage soup in real chicken broth is a good example. I do not obsess with how many veggies I squeeze into each meal. Sometimes I forget to soak and we eat muffins anyway. And don’t even get me started with RAW. Yes, I’ve definitely seen food obsession and I want no part of that. But I truly believe that the Lord led me down the path towards traditional food preparation and that it is my responsibility to keep this a priority in our family’s lives. It is a difficult tension to be sure, but I hope we will be careful about veering too far to either extreme.

    • Lindsay December 14, 2010 at 2:38 pm #

      I wholeheartedly desire to serve healthy and nutritious food to my family. We want to be healthy and fit for the Lord’s use. We certainly have free will in making decisions about what eat, but God still knows the length of our days. They can certainly be cut short through unwise choices in the extreme case that you mentioned, but they also cannot be lengthened. We may feel better through healthy choices, but we will not live longer than God has intended. I think we need to step back and re-evaluate the TRUE long term impact of these decisions. We just need give grace and allow freedom in Christ. More on this in part 2.

    • Jessica December 15, 2010 at 1:32 pm #

      I totally agree w you on everything you said – I was going to write a reply as well to say that I did not agree w the comment that healthy eating can not add a day to your life – if you have 2 people – one eating a poor diet of junk food, fast food and so on and another person trying to eat more real foods w out it being an idol, stressed over the foods prep each day, uptight about foods and so on – then health wise that person will most likely live longer – We are to take care of the temples God gave us. That should be real foods and such but not be an idol – it is okay if we don’t do all organics and so on but we need to try to stick to real foods as best as our budget will allow w out it being an idol – everything in moderation – It is sad that the friend died who was so into NT ways – but was she uptight, stressed, worried over foods? that can also do a lot to ones health – we need to rejoice in Jesus, live for Him and enjoy our time w our kids and in that also try to eat well.
      Anyway very well said reply…I thought the same thing when I read the post.

  21. Bethany B. December 14, 2010 at 9:38 am #

    Thank you! This is so well said. Our food budget is really tight and while I try to make the best choices I can (for us, I decided that starts with milk, meat and eggs), often times it means that I have to make compromises on other types of food. Lately, I’ve been feeling guilty when I go to the store because I can’t feed my family with all of the organic products that I want to, but really, I need to feel extraordinarily grateful to the Lord that I can feed my family. I’ll definitely double check my attitude from here on out-Thank you! I’m looking forward to part 2!!

  22. Bobbie December 14, 2010 at 9:34 am #

    This was exactly the conclusion the Lord brought me to just recently. I don’t know if you’ve read the “new” discovery ( on the WPF website and Cheeseslave ) about how sprouting grains does not reduce phytic acid and that the sprouted flour still needs to soaked and even then eaten only in very small amounts, oats should not even be eaten in any form and that beans must be sprouted if eaten at all. All flour must be stoneground. Coconut flour is bad, Coconut milk must be soured first, Raw cacao is extremely high in phytic acid and on and on! I was so discouraged! I was already spending 5-6 hours a day in kitchen preparing these “once healthy but now forbidden foods” and wondered what on earth was actually safe to eat! I have lately been obsessed about my childrens health, especially since we don’t immunize and are watched very closely by dissapproving family members who point out every time my child has a cold. I felt like every time they got sick I wasn’t feeding them well enough to keep them healthy. I feel like the Lord used this information to bring me to my knees before Him. I have been very proud of the effort I make to feed my family. He has shown me how feeble my efforts are and how far away from trusting Him I was. In short, I am actually simplifying my efforts in the kitchen and spending the time (less stressed!) with my children instead.

    • Amanda December 14, 2010 at 10:09 am #

      @Bobbie, I was curious about the articles you mentioned, but could not find them on the Cheeseslave or WPF websites/blogs. Could you send a link to the articles to you which you referred? Thanks.

      • Bobbie December 14, 2010 at 3:27 pm #

        Amanda,

        I’m not sure how to send a link (and my hubby isn’t home to show me :) But the title of the WPF article is “Living with Phytic Acid” and Cheeseslave’s is “How to cure tooth decay with Rami Nagel”. I put the title in each sites search engine and it pulled up the article. You can also read The Healthy Home Econimist’ “Whole grains cause tooth decay”. Rami Nagel’s studies are the source of each article. If you are still unable to find them let me know and I’ll try to link to them when my husband gets home.

    • Lindsay December 14, 2010 at 1:35 pm #

      Wow! That is crazy. I had heard rumors but not read those articles yet. It just confirms that there is no end to it. Eventually they are going to say we should eat nothing. ;) I have decided to just continue in the methods that I have adopted and not read any further. That would be totally discouraging. We love oatmeal at our house. It’s not going anywhere any time soon.

      • Carrie December 14, 2010 at 5:45 pm #

        I hope I’m not only feeding into the worry (and maybe I am… it is a struggle!), but I did scan the article and was actually please with what I found. According to the article, you’re probably fine, since he says in the article: “Calcium (think raw milk, raw cheese, yogurt, and kefir) balances out the negative effects of phytates.” And this is my own paraphrasing, but sounds like as long as grains aren’t a huge part of your diet, and if so, as long as you take care to soak or sour them (arm temp and using fresh ground rye flour/starter and long soaking times are the keys to making it work)… and as long as you eat foods high in vitamin D and calcium, I’m sure you’re fine! It looks like you and your family are healthy and happy and without any significant tooth decay or “defects”… so yay for oatmeal! :)

  23. Jen December 14, 2010 at 9:17 am #

    I cried as I read this, thank you for being real. Time is getting closer for me and my family with two young kids to go overseas and its a bit overwheleming at times, thank you for bring it back down to earth!

  24. Regina Murphy December 14, 2010 at 9:12 am #

    Such a wonderful post! I came to this conclusion a few weeks ago when I heard a wholesome food eating friend remark that parents that let their children eat junk food don’t love them. What?! It floored me to think that this person would dare to think so awfully about someone purely based on one little thing they saw. Then, another friend told me of Christian women she was having dinner with that said that smokers should be left on the table to die when pursuing treatment because of their unhealthy choices. What? We have now mandated to withhold compassion based on a person’s poor choice in the past? Thankfully God does not deal with us that way, and hopefully the Lord will open the eyes of these poor women. Thank you again for your post, it is so true and once again proves that the Bible is true – we are to do everything in moderation.

  25. jennifer bickerton December 14, 2010 at 8:23 am #

    Just beautiful, Lindsay. Thanks for being “REAL.”

  26. carly December 14, 2010 at 8:05 am #

    Thank you! I ran into this a few months ago – I was trying to be the “ultimate homemaker”. I have a one year old son, and since he has been born and I have been home, I have been more and more concerned/obsessed with making sure we eat healthy. I finally realized that it is OKAY if I have to buy bread, yogurt, etc… at the store. It’s okay if my child eats chicken nuggets or fish sticks for lunch sometimes. If we don’t have the money to buy all the super expensive healthy things, use what we do have to get the best quality stuff we can afford. It’s OKAY! I loved what you said about being in the kitchen and not spending time with your kids. I felt like that – I was in there all day long doing all these things that I thought I was “supposed” to do, and not spending time with my son. And that is NOT okay!

  27. Sarah December 14, 2010 at 8:03 am #

    Fantastic!!! Thank you!

  28. Andrea December 14, 2010 at 8:03 am #

    Thank you! I needed to read this…. SO timely. Thank you!

  29. Jen December 14, 2010 at 7:31 am #

    Thanks for a wonderful reminder -great thoughts!

  30. Farrah December 14, 2010 at 7:22 am #

    Wow…wow…

    For years now I have had an eating disorder and have fought endlessly with that disorder in conjunction with my obsession of real food. I feel like if I don’t eat perfectly then I will get fat and if I get fat then I lose who I am. I have also learned that you can be fat eating Nourishing Traditions type foods as well as low cal twinkies. Learning that the hard way…

    Thank you!

  31. sharon December 14, 2010 at 7:21 am #

    THANK YOU! What a wonderful reminder and encouragement at this time of year in particular when so many relational experiences are centered around food gatherings. Thanks for listening to the Lord, and posting what He lays on your heart. ~Sharon

  32. Gloria December 14, 2010 at 7:13 am #

    Thank you for the great word. I too have come to this decision after seeing the effect that health obsession has had on friends who cannot eat with friends and who make others feel judged by their choices. Romans 14:15 “If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died.” has really helped guide my eating. It is still hard when I go to a friend’s house who cooks our meal in teflon coated pans and serves it hot on plastic plates, but I am fully convinced our God is WAY beyond and bigger than all that.

  33. Chelsea December 14, 2010 at 7:10 am #

    Amen! This past week I was at a church gathering, and the pastor had mentioned how much we rely on material things. It’s something I have heard time and time again. The pastor mentioned that we take simple things that are meant to be enjoyed, and we begin to live for them. Wholesome food and food planning becomes an idol for me at times. I was truly convicted of that this Sunday, and reminded to stay on track with your post.
    Thank you for this.

  34. Katie December 14, 2010 at 7:09 am #

    ANother great post! I love this as much as you Idol post. It has been a struggle to not be completely consumed but health and nutrition but to find balance, and I think we are managing it well. We cannot afford all organic so I have picked a few items that will always be organic and the rest will be good enough. And there are plenty of times where a good ‘ol frozen pizza is our chosen dinner so sake of time AND taste. We all love pizza and don’t always have the time to make it from scratch. Balance makes our family more calm and at peace.

  35. Lisa December 14, 2010 at 6:47 am #

    I too often get overwhelmed at all the choices we face as mothers, wives, christians. As with all things in our lives it gets real simple when you stop looking for man’s answers to nutrition and look to the Lord. There is actually quite a bit about food in the bible, He tells us what to eat and what not to eat, and there are many well written christian books about health, taken directly from the scrioptures. Hope this helps, it has for me.

  36. Lori December 14, 2010 at 6:30 am #

    That was so wonderfully well written. I really enjoy your writings.

  37. Carrie December 14, 2010 at 6:15 am #

    Lindsay, like so many others already, THANKS for this post and for the upcoming series. This is just what I need to read and be convicted by! My husband and I are both quite interested in nutrition and have seen how over the last year it can consume us as we’ve gone from eating packaged foods to whole foods. It’s humbling to realize how quickly we make things into idols above God… so quickly!! And I’ve seen my marriage suffer from not making loving the Lord and loving others the top priorities! It’s not worth it to have all the health in the world if you lose sight of God and see your relationships fall apart… you’ll be much sicker physically and spiritually, even if you ARE eating all organic nourishing foods!

    My struggle has been that my husband is possibly even one step beyond me on the nutrition “scale”… and we have differing opinions on some big food groups, like grains/beans. I’ve learned to let go of my wants, not have to have it all figured out (you’re right, it’s so overwhelming to try and research online and find a consistent opinion!), and make my priority to serve my husband over myself. That means LOTS of salads and not so much grains, which I’m finally coming to peace with! Sounds silly, but I so wanted to be able to “bless” my husband with (and I’m sure I’ve been wanting to get praised for…) soaked/soured whole grain baked goods, but it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t want grains! Ha! Good thing salads are way easier than baking bread! :) I’m now seeing this as a blessing. And I’m so hoping to get this all into balance before we have children. Definitely learning to bring it all to God in prayer rather than only searching for answers online…

    Thanks again for these convicting reminders… we all need to be nudged (or shoved!) back into the light of the gospel and reminded to keep God and loving others priorities in our lives. Can’t wait for the next post on this!

  38. Melissa December 14, 2010 at 5:57 am #

    Thank you again for sharing your heart on this matter. I was about to completely throw in the towel on “natural living” until I read your first post on this subject several months ago. It really helped me gain much needed perspective. We are in a position right now where we are learning to be good stewards of our finances, and for us that primarily looks like tithing (which we hope to increase in the future) and getting out of debt. On top of paying for basic necessities that doesn’t leave us a huge grocery budget. I do the best I can with the resources I have.

    Something that has really helped me is just remembering how blessed I am to even have options. How dare I stress and obsess over whether or not the food we are eating is organic (for example) when there are so many out there who just want to be able to eat one meal a day. When we are debt free we do want to increase our grocery budget, but above that we want to be able to give more generously to those who are in need. We want our focus to be on loving and serving God and loving and serving others.

  39. autumn December 14, 2010 at 5:39 am #

    I finally came to the realization after reading so many books that no matter how “perfect” we keep our diet, our environmental toxin exposure is so much worse that a healthy diet is not enough. Like you I think we should do our very best in feeding our families….but its not worth extra stress. I’m on the same page with you. Sad but true.

  40. Sheila December 14, 2010 at 5:27 am #

    Lindsay, thank you for your words about health NOT saving us. I got married last month to an extremely fit and healthy (and godly! yay!) man but inexplicably, I have started worrying so much about everything he eats. He has high blood pressure but he takes good care of himself, and we both enjoy healthy whole food, so I shouldn’t be afraid – but anytime we have a “treat” and go out for pizza or something, I start worrying that he will get sick someday because of these choices. Ridiculous! Thank you for reminding me that God has much more control over my husband’s health than I do!

  41. stephanie December 14, 2010 at 5:24 am #

    wonderfully, insightfully written. Thank you for sharing your heart as this is something so close to many of us mother’s hearts. It’s an encouragement.

  42. Mandy December 14, 2010 at 5:10 am #

    Great post! I loved what you said about how it could influence relationships. We are the only people on both sides of our family that is trying to eat “real food,” like a book I don’t remember but did read said. We just have to be patient and confident that our “way of life” will eventually influence them to do the same, but in the meantime, go ahead and let the kiddos eat manufactured cookies now & then at grandma & grandpas. ;0)

  43. sarah in the woods December 14, 2010 at 5:06 am #

    Thank you for sharing this. It seems such a difficult balance because making healthy choices is so different from the mainstream. Looking forward to the next part.

  44. Alison December 14, 2010 at 4:54 am #

    Ouch, ouch, ouch! This was good for me to read. I’m 19, single, and increasingly obsessed with a Nourishing Traditions lifestyle. The hardest thing you just said for me was about it being taken away. The one thing I like to worry about most is that God won’t let me marry a man that cares about health food like I do. That he will be a coke drinkin’, Dorrito eatin’ guy that resents my passion for good nutrition. That scares me!

    Funny, I read a lot of wonderful blog like yours that balance articles on womanhood, seeking the Lord, and nutrition, but they are all written by mothers! I would love to know what a single girl is supposed to do about it…

    Thanks for bringing truth, Lindsay.

    • Danielle B December 14, 2010 at 5:39 pm #

      Okay, but you wouldn’t date someone who drinks coke and eats Dorritos would you? so why would you marry someone like that???????

      God gives us FREE WILL… so he’s not going to tell you what to do. You choose who you will marry.

  45. Sarah December 14, 2010 at 4:35 am #

    Thank you so much for posting this. Our family is striving to live more naturally, but we try very hard to stay grounded in reality. I used to struggle with an eating disorder, so I know what it’s like to strangle every relationship due to an obsession. I don’t remember much about those years of my life, except the heartache that accompanied feelings of insecurity and self-centeredness. I pray often that the Lord would help me not to let this happen with my desire to serve my family more natural food. He has been very gracious to give me peace about the “non-natural” things that sometimes get into our diets or bath and body products. Ultimately, our lives are in His hands, not the things we eat.

  46. Corina December 14, 2010 at 4:34 am #

    Great timing! This thought has been working in my heart, and I haven’t been able to put it into words. Here you’ve taken my struggle, and laid it out in context of a Christian life, and it gives me peace.
    I appreciate your approach here of loving and respecting the body and our health without worshiping them, and always ensuring we’re nourishing the soul and our relationship with Jesus first and foremost.

  47. Maryea {Happy Healthy Mama} December 14, 2010 at 4:29 am #

    Linsday, I needed this post today. Thank you for helping me keep things in perspective. Have a blessed Christmas!

  48. Sue Mitchell December 14, 2010 at 4:28 am #

    Lindsay, Thank you SO much for writing this! I suffer from slight OCD and can get completely crazy about things – including healthy food. It’s about balance and trusting in GOD to take care of us – not anything else! Yes, we need to be careful about what we put into our bodies and treat our bodies as the temple it is, but we also need to remember that, like you said, healthy eating can NOT save us…only JESUS CHRIST can!! Thank you for that reminder because even today I was going to go shopping at Trader Joe’s and I know that always brings with it for me a certain level of stress. I think I will still go but be praying all the way that I make choices that allow me to TRUST in God, not the food!

  49. Cath December 14, 2010 at 4:01 am #

    This is something that has been on my heart too in the last couple of months. I provide my family with a simple, healthy, balanced diet along the lines of a Nourishing tradtions diet, but at the same time I am not going to stress about making mince pies/cookies for my family this Christmas. We will enjoy every bit of our Chirstmas cake – icing/marzipan the lot! When it is gone it is gone!

    My son has recently been diagnosed with Autism/ADHD. I have done all the “right” things including diet from pre pregnancy forward and yet here we are. We cannot use what we feed our families as an insurance policy for good health. God has much greater plans.

    I read in another blog recently about a mother who would use food allergies as an excuse not to let her children eat food at another friends house. All of my children have a gluten intolerance or coeliac disease like myself. When faced with the reality of food intolerances, I would give any thing to be able to go to a friends house this Christmas and be blessed with all that she would provide without having to worry about making my children ill. I want my children to go out and have a mince pie after the carol service with out having to think about it in advance.

    I am so grateful to God for all that he provides for my family, and I think we sometimes need to take a step back and just remember how blessed we are.

    • Gabreial December 14, 2010 at 9:28 am #

      “I would give any thing to be able to go to a friends house this Christmas and be blessed with all that she would provide without having to worry about making my children ill. I want my children to go out and have a mince pie after the carol service with out having to think about it in advance.”

      Thank you for this comment, it truly humbles the heart and on both ends.

  50. Jeaniene December 14, 2010 at 2:32 am #

    Thank you Lindsay! I just read this to my husband as this is exactly what he has been encouraging me with as I have been going through these sames ups and downs and frustrations and questions in regard to cooking and living healthy and natural. This was such a blessing to my heart and I look forward to part 2. Blessings!