Adjusting to Life with Two

img_5458A typical morning lately at our house resembles something like this…a little potty training, lots of cloth diaper changes, dealing with a difficult stage in child training a toddler, and all!

The clock chimes seven o-clock and the baby awakes (if we are lucky). Titus is fed while we have our morning devotions. Karis awakens and needs a diaper change and dressed for the day (and do that hair so we can see her little face!). Mommy needs to get dressed. Karis is extremely hungry and makes it known. Mommy prepares breakfast while trying to figure out what should be pulled out for dinner. Titus begins to scream with tiredness and ready for a morning nap. Mommy prepares to get Titus ready for a nap while delivering breakfast to Karis and Daddy, only to discover that Titus has burped up everywhere and needs a new outfit (yes, he is a burper!). Change Titus and lay him down for a nap.

Mommy finally sits down for her breakfast only to last for a minute or two before Karis has completed her breakfast and wants to get down and read stories with Mommy. Mommy engulfs her breakfast while reading stories and trying to clean up the kitchen (or at least throwing it all in the sink!). She looks into the mirror and decides it would be nice to do her hair but only after Karis sits down on the potty chair and Titus has been nursed and changed once again. It is 11:30 am and time for lunchtime. Wow! Life is busy and I only have two!

What am I learning while adjusting to life with two?

1. Serving my family is full-time ministry! I have been struggling thinking all my time has been consumed with caring for two little ones and asking myself, “Doesn’t God have something else for me to do?” He is gently reminding me that this is my ministry. These are two precious souls that He has entrusted to my care! Nothing is more important right now then changing diapers, patiently dealing with a naughty attitude, and caring for the basic needs of these gifts of life.

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2. Be purposeful to cultivate kindness – it is so easy to burst out in anger when dealing with two screaming children and a hungry hubby, but God calls me to practice demonstrating kindness. According to Jerry Bridges, “Kindness is a sincere desire for the happiness of others,” and “goodness is the activity calculated to advance that happiness.” Do I desire their happiness? For in serving to meet their desires, I will find true joy and fulfillment.

3. It is essential for Mommy to have a few moments of time in the Word before the children awake and takeĀ  a passage of Scripture to meditate upon through the day. Write it on a piece of paper and post it above the kitchen sinks works for me! I must prepare my heart before the Lord for the day, otherwise I will get caught in my own sinfulness and selfishness. On my own strength, I have no desire whatsoever to serve my husband and children all day long.

4. Don’t forget the hubby! I don’t want to get too consumed with my children that I forget that my first priority is my husband. How can I purposefully make time to enjoy him? A kind greeting, frequent kisses and hugs and expressing my gratefulness to his faithfulness in providing for us, snuggling at night, and listening to him when he shares about his day and what is on his heart. Those are the simple things I am working on.

5. Some things just have to go! No, my house is not perfectly cleaned…nor do I plan on it being so for awhile. ;)

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On the more practical side…

(in order to maintain peace and harmony in our home)

1. Prepare breakfast in advance as much as possiblesoak some oatmeal the night before so it only takes 5-10 minutes to prepare in the morning, start breakfast before Karis wakes up and is starving by whipping up some green smoothies or prepare them the night before and put in the fridge, etc. This allows for a peaceful morning with no crying hungry toddler!

2. Mommy needs a short nap, or at least close my eyes and rest, if only for 20 minutes. This is in order to maintain peace and harmony in the home. This is one way I can serve my husband and children. Rest restores my strength and enables me continue to strive to joyfully serve my family.

3. Scheduling my children to nap simultaneously is essential in order for mommy to rest! It is possible!

God has been good and we are enjoying this new season! Baby Titus is nursing and sleeping very well. We are so thankful for the many meals that have been prepared for us by family and friends, for the individuals who assisted with housecleaning, for our mothers who came to assist us after the birth, for the blog readers who graciously gave or loaned me cloth diapers for our children, for the dear friends who loaned us baby boy clothes, to name a few of the recent blessings poured out upon us. All our needs are being met! See…you really don’t have to find out the gender of your baby in advance in order to be prepared! God provides! And that surprise really helps get you through labor and delivery!

About Lindsay

Lindsay Edmonds is first a lover of Jesus, wife, mother of four, homemaker, and writer. She loves inspiring women around the world toward simple, natural, and intentional living for the glory of God.

56 Responses to Adjusting to Life with Two

  1. Mera Ladd April 8, 2009 at 6:41 pm #

    Hi there,
    I just found your blog and really love your ministry here. Great job, love the natural recipes the best. I wanted to tell you that going from one to two is so hard. I have an 8 month old and a 2.5 year old. This was a huge, emotional change but the more they interact and giggle and laugh together and the times I see my husband interacting with both our babies, I just glow inside. It did take about 4 months that I wasn’t crying all the time though, I think while you are breastfeeding, your emotions run wild :) We women are tough and it is hard to manage the attitudes of a toddler and provide a calm respite for hubby but through Him, we can do anything. Congrats on your new arrival and I can’t wait to read more. Many blessings!

  2. Mrs April 8, 2009 at 10:56 am #

    Just found your blog!

    These are the Biblical truths I wish a Titus 2 woman would have told me 20 years ago. I am only NOW finding peace in my role as wife and mother because of God’s gracious work in me.

    Blogs like yours will encourage the next generation, as I pray to do! My children are now 20, 16, and 12. My greatest joy is cleaning their clothes, feeding their bellies, and homeschooling them. WHO would have thought I could have such peace by dying to self?