Let Your Work be Your Worship

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I was overwhelmed with my assignment today – my mothering and homemaking. My little ones have been bickering like crazy fighting over toys, food, and whatever else with piercing screams. I forgot to turn on my dishwasher, leaving me with a kitchen full of dirty dishes. A Realtor calls to show the house and gives me a 20 minute notice. I fly crazily around the house to get it picked up and then out the door with my kids, only to have her cancel just after we had loaded everyone into the car and drove away. I found myself asking myself, “How on earth can I ever train them to love each other? How can I manage all of this? How can I keep the peace when my emotions wants to stress out?” You would have seen me crying if you had been present today.

Then the Lord gently reminded me that maintaining joy in my tasks is my opportunity to worship my Creator. He has designed us, as women, to establish a peaceful home for God’s glory.

As Ginger Plowman puts it so well in her book, Heaven at Home,God created you, the woman, with a wonderful uniqueness that enables you to build your home and family in accordance with his perfect plan. To follow his calling and accept your uniqueness is to fulfill your purpose….The Proverbs 31 woman…as productive and respected as she was, was nothing without the atoning grace of God. She delighted in serving and worshiping her Creator in all the mundane duties of life. She knew that God created her as a woman, to be a wife of noble character, a nurturing mom, and a homemaker. She glorified God in her femininity.”

Did you hear that? To be a godly woman means we worship the Creator in all the duties of life – everything from diapers, to dishes, to scrubbing toilets, to preparing meals, to decorating our homes. Each task is an act of worship to our Creator, because we are faithfully walking in His beautiful design. Worship is not limited to Sundays, or to actual singing, but it is doing all that we do for the glory of God, with a heart that desires to please Him. These are acts of worship when completed with a joyful heart. “Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Cor. 10:31).

Don’t fall under the lie that your assignment in the home is worthless, or less important. You have the opportunity to bring God glory through every mundane task. Washing the dishes is an opportunity to worship my Savior! Training my children is an opportunity to radiate God’s beauty. Sing while you work, inwardly and externally, and God will be greatly glorified. The important thing is to keep your eyes on Jesus and do the next thing.

Ginger shares later, “True beauty radiates from a woman who gracefully walks the path designed uniquely for her. To walk the path of God’s will is to show others the beauty of Christ. ” God has assigned me the task of dedicating my life to nurturing my children, loving and working side by side with my husband in fulfilling the mission God has assigned us to love God and reach out in demonstrating that love to others. That is my calling and every small task will be my act of worship and He will give me wisdom to faithfully walk this path! His grace is sufficient!

Romans 12:1
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship.

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The Benefits of Lacto-Fermentation & Lacto-Fermented Salsa Recipe

Our beautiful salsa ingredients

I have always been intimidated by the idea of lacto-fermentation. I mean, just listen to the name. Sounds scary! I always thought it was time-consuming with not so tasty results. And if it weren’t for my sweet cousin, Amy, I probably would still be in that scared state. This last week, Amy, invited me over to her home to make lacto-fermented salsa. I thought, why not? I discovered how incredibly easy this process is! And how fun to learn something new with friends. Couldn’t get much better than that – inspiring one another on in our healthy homemaking pursuits. So find a friend, and dive in with me to the world of lacto-fermentation?

What is Lacto-Fermentation?

Rather than go into all the details, I will just share a few quotes with you and direct you to my lovely friends on the web who have explained this so well previously.

Lacto-fermentation is the process of cultivating lactic acid as a natural preservative to prevent putrefication. Starches and sugars in vegetables and fruits are converted to lactic acid by the many species of lactic-acid producing bacteria. It has multiple health benefits as described by Sally Fallon in Nourishing Traditions:

“The proliferation of lactobacilli in fermented vegetables enhances their digestibility and increases vitamin levels. These beneficial organisms produce numerous helpful enzymes as well as antibiotic and anticarcinogenic substances. Their main by-product, lactic acid, not only keeps vegetables and fruits in a state of perfect preservation but also promotes the growth of healthy flora throughout the intestine.”

I have discovered that is is a simply, easy, and worthwhile means of adding wonderful vitamins, enzymes, and especially probiotics to your diet.

Fermented Foods for Beginners by Nourishing Days
Benefits of Lacto-Fermentation by Nourishing Gourmet
Wild Fermentation – a great resource as to the whys and hows of fermentation

Lacto-Fermented Salsa

Recipe adapted from Nourishing Days

Makes 1/2 gallon

1 large onion cut into large chunks
1 large green, red or yellow pepper, cut into large chunks
6 large cloves of garlic, peeled
1/2 cup fresh cilantro, unchopped
1 jalapeno pepper, cut in half
3 lbs of tomatoes, cut into quarters (approximately 4 cups)
2 Tbsp lemon juice (or juice of 1 lemon)
1 Tbsp red wine vinegar
2 Tbsp sea salt (definitely sufficient!)
1/2 cup whey (Take yogurt or kefir and place in a cheesecloth/cloth napkin and drain over large measuring cup. Squeeze the cloth gently with your hands until you get enough liquid. The juice that drains will be your whey! It’s very easy!)
1/4-1/2 cup water (UPDATE: we found this completely unnecessary and made it too watery, so use your judgment.)

Directions:

  1. In a food processor or blender, place onion, pepper, garlic cloves, cilantro and jalapeno pepper. Pulse several times until mixture is nicely diced. Transfer to a large bowl.
  2. Place tomatoes in the food processor or blender and pulse several times in likewise fashion until nicely diced. Add to large bowl.
  3. Gently combine all ingredients in the large bowl and add lemon juice, vinegar, sea salt, and whey.
  4. Transfer to a 1/2 gallon glass jar (or 2 quart size jars), and carefully add 1/4-1/2 cup water until all the ingredients are submerged. Make sure to leave 2-3 inches of headspace for expansion.
  5. Cover tightly with a lid and leave on your counter for 2-3 days until the salsa is bubbly. Transfer to cold storage or the top shelf of your refrigerator. Best used within 3 months.

Here’s our little video demonstration amidst all of our 5 little ones! We had the little girls cut up the tomatoes for us and they loved being included in the process. All in all, it took about 2 hours to make 3 gallons of salsa with interruptions so it was a very easy process. Amy is allergic to dairy, so she offers her dairy free alternative to using whey, which is Body Ecology veggie culture starters, as described in the video. Join us for all the fun we had!

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Easy Fermented Beverages

Kombucha is a simple way of getting some of these fermented benefits into your diet regularly! We love this beverage! Kefir is another easy one that we have used forever for our smoothies and for soaking our grains.

Easy Fermented Condiments

After our successful salsa makings, I knew that a few other easy means of getting probiotics would be through our condiments. I love homemade ketchup and whipped it up in a few minutes and it is currently on my shelf fermenting away. Here are a few recipes:

Lacto-Fermented Ketchup
Lacto-Fermented Mustard

Lacto-Fermented Mayonnaise

I have made lacto-fermented sauerkraut in the past, and I don’t recommend the standard recommendation that you can replace whey with an extra tablespoon of salt, as we did with that attempt. It makes an extremely salty final product! Best to use the simple process of making whey as described above!

So that is a simple start on lacto-fermentation!

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Natural Morning Sickness Remedies

This post is by contributing writer, Michele Augur.

If you are that queasy early pregnancy season, I just want to let you know that I empathize with you!

Once you are experiencing morning sickness, there are a some things you can do that might help. However, any remedy will likely not eliminate your discomfort 100%. During my seasons of morning (all day!) sickness, I have found it incredibly helpful to meditate upon Psalm 23 in the midst of it. (It really was surprisingly refreshing!)

Just as in any other challenging season of parenting, our Lord is faithful to walk with us, and can use these times for refining us. He may be calling you to simply rest in Him (and on the couch at times), and we cannot necessarily expect to complete all that we had before pregnancy. Give yourself grace, dear one.

Nourish yourself and your little one.

Get Your Protein

Keep pursuing the high-protein diet. Even if it doesn’t seem to help with the morning sickness right now, it can have many benefits in the long run. Referring to the Brewer Diet checklists may be helpful in setting meal/snack habits. I actually found it most helpful to begin this diet (as well as including some “detoxing”/cleansing herbs) several months before conceiving, in order to establish a healthy foundation.

Eat Often

Small, regular nourishing snacks (every hour or two, if needed!) can help prevent that intense queasy feeling. Keep finger-foods handy in the fridge or your purse to munch on. During the day, you can keep a slow cooker filled with a protein-dense snack, such as oatmeal & peanut butter (add some cinnamon, raw honey, & coconut) or brown rice & cheese (stir in some sea salt, herbs, and sunflower seeds). You can quickly spoon out a small bowlful for a snack. Eat even if you feel too sick to eat. You’ll likely feel better, not worse (if it comes back up, oh well).

Eat at Night

This tip from my midwives made such a difference for me. Whenever you wake up in the middle of the night (pregnant mamas know about those potty trips!), before heading back to bed, grab a half cup of whole milk yogurt from the fridge. Drizzle it with a bit of raw honey. The combination of whole milk fats, the probiotics, and the benefits of raw honey help with balancing blood sugar and with digestion (both of these issues can contribute to nausea), as well as helping you fall back asleep.

Don’t Wait for Breakfast

I found that I was less nauseous in the morning, if I ate before getting out of bed. My husband would bring breakfast to bed (or I would keep snacks at the bedside), and we would eat together before I sat up (moving too quickly started that motion sickness feeling!).

Eating an early breakfast (before 5 or 6 am), helped me start the day. (Waiting for a later breakfast meant intense nausea from hunger.) After eating, I could either doze or get up. I would then feel ready to get up and take care of my toddler’s breakfast by 7 or 8 am when she awoke.

Take a Nap

Tiredness from “overdoing it” can lead to feeling poorly. Make sure to take times throughout the day to rest. Little ones can certainly be playing nearby while you rest. A half hour or so of laying down can make such a difference.

Try to grab a chance to put your feet up, by snuggling up on the couch or pulling out a lawn chair while children play in the yard. My little girl enjoyed books on tape, Signing Time DVDs (we learned a lot of sign language last year!), reading preschool books together, nature “treasure hunts” in the backyard, and tearing pictures from catalogs. (We would save these special activities for “Mama’s Resting Time.”)

Drink Your Tea

Drinking a quart of “pregnancy tea” throughout the day provides quality nourishment. Find (or make) a tea that includes herbs for digestion, such as peppermint or ginger.

Add Some Lemon

Friends and I have found that drinking homemade lemonade or lemon water has helped refresh us and provide some nausea relief during pregnancy. (You can add some carbonated water to make it bubbly, if that is additionally soothing for you.) Toss some lemon slices in your water bottle while on outings. You might also find a natural ginger ale helpful, as well.

See a Chiropractor

Regular chiropractic care has been one of the best elements in our family’s pursuit of wellness. A chiropractor can help correct any imbalances that may be contributing to extreme symptoms.

Try Acupressure

I’ve never tried it myself, but I have heard of some mamas benefiting from the use of acupressure bands (originally designed to prevent sea-sickness).

What natural remedies have worked for you?

{Photo Credits: Esparta, Plinkk}

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September at Our Home

This has been a full month of exciting changes in the extended Edmonds family! We celebrated the union of Aaron’s oldest brother, Nathan & Kathy, on September 5th, and then last weekend celebrated the engagement of one of Aaron’s younger brothers, Stephen & Anna. Yes, there are seven boys in his family. We also welcomed a new little niece, Nora Elise Edmonds (that makes four granddaughters to balance out the men a bit!).

Nathan & Kathy Edmonds

I also had the privilege of speaking at the Selah conference, which was an awesome experience (listen to my session here!). Sandwiched between these events, we took a lovely vacation to the Oregon Coast (our favorite spot in Lincoln City) and spent five days as a family just resting, reading, walking the beach, and a bit of shopping.

I am thankful for the ways the Lord has been working and shaping my life this past month. While enduring insomnia and the side-effects of depression, I have experienced the richness of getting away and taking time to plan, set goals, and strategies to complete them. It’s so valuable to schedule in time for such retreats mid-year when I need a refresh boost.

Simply re-committing to rising early, and get dressed before our little ones are up, makes a huge difference on my attitude and the productivity of our home. It’s so easy to get lazy when you are lacking sleep. When I don’t get up early, I don’t have time to spend with the Lord, the most important relationship in my life. When I don’t have a few moments to myself, it is even easier to succumb to moodiness. If you haven’t read Maximize Your Mornings, please do (it’s free)! It is such a great resource for fully utilizing your time most effectively for God’s glory.


The grandkids - Alita, Eva, Karis & Titus - Nora was still in the womb

Another thing the Lord has been encouraging me with is the value of always seeking to learn new things. I want to be faithful in my roles, and yet sometimes it is easy to get discouraged or tired and weary of the same routines. Why not learn something new? A new skill, a new art, a new book. What a huge difference it can make in your attitude! I started dabbing into developing my own sourdough starter, which has been a ton of fun (thanks to Wardeh’s sourdough e-course). I also took a leap and make my first batch of lacto-fermented products (in my case, salsa was a great place to start!). Seeking to learn new things can keep fresh joy and excitement in your homemaking!

So it has been a blessed and rich month, to say the least.


Yes, this is US! They had a photo booth with costumes at the wedding and we all had a blast!

My Bookshelf

Having a nice trip to the beach enabled me to complete some extra reading this month.

Girls Gone Wise in A World Gone Wild by Mary Kassian is a rich and challenging read for women of all ages in our generation. Mary does an amazing job addressing 20 points of contrast between the Proverbs 7 (Woman of Folly – Wild Thing) with the Wise Woman (Wise Thing). She hits the mark and the heart of the matter while addressing the importance of guarding our hearts, counsel, attitude, habits, and lifestyle choices. It is eye-opening and convicting in guiding women in all aspects of life – but especially in understanding our role and the proper manner of interaction with men. Highly recommend!

Depression: A Stubborn Darkness by Ed Welch – I really did not want to read this book, but the Lord kept bringing it to my attention, and I’m still wading through it, but it is a rich read if you deal with any susceptibility to moodiness or depression. How to understand the reality of it and how to deal with it from a beautiful Christ centered approach.

Up next…Heaven at Home by Ginger Plowman!

I wanted to take a moment and thank you all for your continual support and encouragement! We passed our third blog anniversary this month and I totally forgot! It has been an awesome blessing to share with you all through the journey of learning to delight in homemaking. Thank you and many blessings upon you all!

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Decorisms: Seasonal & Simple Decor Inspiration

Do you desire to make your home a sweet and refreshing place for your family? Do you want inspiration for simple home decor ideas that you could do with basic supplies around your house?

I am blessed to welcome my sweet sister, Christa, to our panel of monthly contributing writers. She will be contributing ideas on simple and seasonal home decor for the everyday homemaker that desires to make her home a place of comfort, rest, and refreshment for her family. Christa has been gifted in the area of creativity and has always filled my family’s home with fresh elegance. She has happily agreed to inspire you with some simple home decor tips and ideas. Christa is a photographer, clothing designer, and blogger. Follow her blog at Empowered Traditionalist, where she shares elegant modest fashion tips.

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Resources -Holidays, Nutrition & Entertainment Savings!

I have been wanting to share with you some exciting resources that I have stumbled upon recently, and thus here they all are in one quick little post.

12 Week Holiday Planner for the Christian Family – I have shared about this wonderful resource in the past, but am excited to announce that Sheri at Graham Family Ministries has completely updated the planner and offers a new edition! October 1st begins the 12 weeks leading up to Christmas, and this planner is thoroughly organized to make your holidays simple and smooth.

This e-book guide will provide you with practical tools to plan for a fruitful and focused holiday season! This 171 page e-book includes recipes, planning sheets, holiday tradition ideas, healthy menu ideas, memory making ideas, journal pages, and so much more!

We have used this planner for the past two years and have loved it!

Real Food Nutrition & Health for Kids! Want to teach your children about real food health and nutrition? Kristen at Food Renegade is offering an online ecourse adapted for children and teens, ages 12-up. It would be a perfect homeschooling session to take with your children and learn about important health concepts.

Inspired by the same love of wholesome, traditional foods that you find in the cookbook Nourishing Traditions, the work of Weston A. Price, the Slow Food movement, and farmer’s markets everywhere, this course covers all the basics of Nutrition from a decidedly Real Food perspective. This course was developed by a homeschooling mother who wants to make health & nutrition fun for all with no boredom allowed! The course will highlight video footage, fun experiments at the grocery store, discussion questions, and other interactive projects. Check it out! Registration ends on October 1st, so sign up now!

FINALLY! A Nutrition text that gets it RIGHT. Click here for details.

Groupon – have you checked out Groupon yet? If not, I wanted to pass it on because we have found some great local deals through this hot resource! If you live in one of the major cities highlighted, you can subscribe to the daily notifications of a special deal for restaurants, food, clothing, fun activities, and much more. Thus far, I got a 50% deal on a dinner date to my husbands favorite local restaurant, McMenamins, a 50% deal for Gap, and a $10 photo book from Shutterfly for our annual family albums. It’s simple and easy and you can save a lot of money for some fun entertainment!
Find Today’s Daily Deal on Your City’s Best Things To Do at Groupon.com!

Passionate Homemaking is an affiliate of the above companies because we can highly recommend these as helpful resources for our readers. We receive a small percentage of each purchase made through our links, so thanks for supporting us!

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Missional Homemaking – Listen Now!

It was a wonderful privilege to speak at the Selah conference this past weekend at George Fox University. I was nervous as can be, and yet God’s grace was definitely present working in and through me as I spoke for two hours – the same session back to back – to nearly 200 ladies. I was thankful to have my mom, sisters, and my dear friend, Kate, present to support me throughout the day. I was able to record my session on the topic of “Missional Homemaking: Cultivating a life of radical generosity“. Learn the beautiful plan of God’s intention for the use of the home as a soul saving station. Cultivating the art of living simply in order to give generously. I would love for you to pass this on to any others that you know would appreciate hearing it. All glory to God!

Click on this link to hear my session:

Missional Homemaking – Selah 2010 Conference

Below is the handout I provided which is a simple take home worksheet to help practically apply the 12 different principles I shared.

Missional Homemaking Handout

My mom and I - my amazing example in her committment to hospitality

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Craigslist Tips & Tricks

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If I were to make a list of all the items in our house that we have purchased used off Craigslist, it would probably be 75% of our household furnishings. Let’s see. Queen bed and frame, two chest freezers, two cars, coffee table and end table, high chair, stroller, carriers, file cabinet, car seats, glass jars (i.e. our kitchen pantry storage units), cloth diapers, rocking chair, to name a few. Yes, I love craigslist for all the wonderful goodies you can find for practically every need at less than 1/2 the price of their new counterpart. That being said, it is often easy to get overly consumed with it and just track all the items that come through just to exalt in what amazing deals you can find (am I the only frugal momma that can idolize that?). I do not recommend this pursuit…but if there is something you truly need, make sure to first check Craigslist. You can often find items, especially for babies, that have just seen one child’s use, so it is still practically new.

We have also sold a lot of our junk on Craigslist in a very easy manner. You would be amazed what junk you have that might be valuable to another – an old microwave, cell phones, baby items (strollers, clothes, etc), monitors and various technology, and kitchen appliances, have been on passed on from our house to another happy party. “One man’s toxic sludge is another man’s potpourri”, according to the Grinch, and I have found it to be true. You will also get a higher price for an item you are selling versus offering it a garage sale. We have also made some hilarious encounters over Craigslist as well. On one occasion we sold a air purifier to my midwife. On another occasion, I sold cloth diapers to my friend and contributor, Michele at Frugal Granola.

Craiglist is great way to just give things away. If nothing else, post your clutter for free and see what happens. Our neighbors have tossed large items into the trash before (as we have a community garage dumpster), and we have posted them for free on craigslist (so as to avoid the landfills), and there were gone in under an hour. In this case, we would just post the item on a first come, first serve basis, and include our basic approximate address and leave the item by the door or outside. A simple way to serve the community and be a good steward (who wants an old BBQ filling up half the dumpster?).

Lastly, Craigslist is a great way to test a product. I have frequently purchaced a product used on Craigslist, tried it out, and then re-sold it if I didn’t like it. I did this with a Baby Bjorn carrier. Tried it out. Didn’t float my boat, so I sold it. I also did this with several different cloth diaper styles, strollers, and other items. Many times I have made more than I paid for the item.

We have a few learned a few things along the way that might assist you.

1. Always meet in a public place.

This is a wise practice, if possible, for everyone’s safety. The other benefit is that there will be more guarantee that your buyer will come and not cause a “no show”. I have had numerous times when people said they were coming and never showed up, but this problem was completely solved when we designated a specific location and time.

2. Provide your telephone number.

When posting an ad, include your phone number. I’m one that doesn’t like to post my phone number online, but have found it will significantly increase your chance for making a good and quick sale. The serious buyers will call. The random inquiries will always email.

3. Make an offer.

Don’t be afraid to make an offer on an item, unless you really know that it is a rock bottom price and it will just sell really fast. More times than not I have always got a better price than originally post. This also applies to items you want to sell but don’t really know the value or think that it is not worth much. Ask for a offer. I got twice as much as I thought I could for my microwave by following this tip.

4. Provide pictures and clear descriptions.

Make sure to always include a picture of the item you have for sale, even if it is small and invaluable. People are not interested in items that don’t have pictures. It’s not worth putting the effort into making a post and be lazy to not include a picture. Make your descriptions clear.

5. Utilize the RSS Feed.

If you are on the lookout for an item but don’t want to be checking in every day for something to be posted, subscribe to your specific search with the RSS feature. It’s as simple as entering your search item and then going up to the URL line and selecting the RSS button on the far right. Now all the new postings can be send to your email.

It is important to note that you do need to use a discerning eye when viewing Craigslist. Always use the search bar rather than just viewing the general entries. I have never had a problem exposing myself to anything inappropriate in this fashion. If you are an iPhone or Ipod Touch user, the Craigslist Pro app is a great little tool. It makes searching and selling so easy – 5 minutes or less. You can post an ad completely from your iPhone with the camera feature. You can also subscribe to a feed and it will alert you with a basic alarm feature.

What tips do you have to share?

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10 Things I’m Learning About Marriage

This post is brought to you by monthly contributor, Vina Barham.

Oh marriage. I came into this thinking I’ve got it all figured out, having read every book on relationships I could get my hands on. But the real teacher is our everyday experience, and even though my husband and I have only been married for four years (a newbie we are, really!), I wanted to share a few things I am learning that has proven helpful in growing our relationship. I hope some of these speak to you.

1. Remember the small stuff.

Marriage is really about the everyday stuff, the everyday hugs and conversations, the everyday ordinary moments that add up: the kind tone, the understanding nod, the thoughtful gesture, the supportive look, the fun kiss, the genuine smile, the endearment, the delight, the embrace. Build up your marriage through the small stuff.

2. Focus on the good.

Cultivate genuine appreciation for your spouse. Find the praiseworthy, the lovely, the good in what your spouse does. No matter how small. For being so gentle with your child. For being a fun dad. For working hard at his job or business. Leave him notes, or simply thank him right there and then. No flattery here, just sincere gratitude for specific things he does.

3. Avoid scorekeeping.

So you change more diapers than your spouse. And he often does it the “wrong” way. Realize that if you were in his position, you would not be as good as changing diapers as you are now because you just couldn’t do it more often. Figure out a way to divide up the child-rearing and household tasks that make sense for you both, and leave it at that. Keeping score is exhausting and utterly counter-productive.

4. Embrace your differences.

Assume the best in your spouse’s intention even when his methods differ from yours. Don’t be afraid of conflicts but learn ways to resolve them respectfully without undermining each other. See how your child benefits from the different ways you parent and nurture.

5. Don’t criticize.

Just as the small good acts can add up, the small negative thoughts and words do too. What you think of your spouse, he will become that to you. And worse, your child will pick up on it. If something is bothering you about your spouse, first take time to see what’s going on with you. Often, it’s about our own issues. If it’s something your spouse needs to hear, bring it up but be specific about which action got you frustrated. Resist the urge to attack and devour. It may feel good to do so at the moment, but never worth it in the end.

6. Make time and space for intimacy.

It’s easy to let this one go but especially if you have a little one who needs all your attention, sex becomes essential. Even more than date nights. I’ll have to write about this for another post, about all the reasons we really need to make this a priority. Get creative. We sleep with our daughter in our family bed, and let me just say it’s sparked our creativity in more ways than one.

7. Don’t rely on your emotions.

Listen to what they are telling you, but don’t make it your reality. Some days, I really don’t feel much “love” for my spouse but it doesn’t mean I don’t love him. Use it to gauge your inner temperature to figure how you are doing, but don’t dump it on your spouse if you are feeling the heat. Instead….

8. Journal.

Write about all the changes you are experiencing to help you process it better. Writing often brings me clarity about an issue as well as an outlet to write our story as it unfolds. I love reading about my experiences a few months down the road. I learn from it and I grow. Or I just laugh.

9. Know your boundaries and leverage them.

I am a hopelessly strong introvert and honestly, at the end of the day, I don’t have much energy to give to my spouse. So I really try not to get spent right before he gets home. Lately, I’ve tried to make dinner right after my daughter wakes up from her nap so I can be free of the stress I usually have to deal with come dinner time. We try to go on a walk if we can right before hubby gets home so I can some “alone” time while still playing with my daughter. It really has helped me be in a more cheerful mood by the time my husband gets home from work.

10. Finally, assess your expectations and rewrite them when necessarily.

Or just let them go. I always imagined dinner a time for elaborate conversations and a lot of laughter. We still do laugh a lot, but mostly because my daughter gets in this silly mood at dinner time. But we don’t really get to talk the way I want to because it’s quite impossible with a toddler. Just bits and pieces of our day interrupted with a funny gesture or word from our little one that elicits giggles. And I just take it as it is. Either that or I fume about the conversation that isn’t happening and is sure to not happen after dinner because of my attitude.

Above all, if you mess up, there’s no better fix than a true apology. Marriage is after all, about growing in grace. Especially with children.

What about you? Any tips to add?

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Is Sourdough Really Sour? Deflating 5 Sourdough Myths

Guest post written by Wardeh Harmon from Gnowfglins.

Not long after I began reading about sourdough, working with it myself, and teaching others to embrace it, I noticed a handful of misconceptions that come up again and again. These ideas get around somehow and they’re simply not true.

For instance, have you been told that sourdough is always sour? Do you get the impression that baking with sourdough is too hard for everyday moms who aren’t gourmet bakers? Has someone moaned that it’s super hard to keep a sourdough starter alive? Those are three of the five myths I’d like to deflate today. I’d like to set the record straight about our trustworthy and simple friend: sourdough.

1. Sourdough Is Just For Bread.

Actually, sourdough is one of the most versatile baking methods you’ll ever try. In addition to gorgeous, tasty and soft bread, you can make easy and mouth-watering sourdough pancakes, waffles, english muffins, muffins, donuts, crackers, biscuits, pot pie, gingerbread, pasta, cookies, scones, crepes, pizza crusts, tortillas, cakes, and more! I did go on and on, but you got the point, right?

2. Sourdough Is Difficult.

Not so! On the spot, you can whip up the easiest, tastiest, most nutritious pancakes, waffles or crepes with just leftover starter and a few other ingredients. For many other easy dishes, all that’s required is mixing up some starter, liquid and flour ahead of time. Then about 8 hours later you’ll create cinnamon rolls, biscuits, or pasta much like usual. So tell me, how hard does that sound?

3. Sourdough Is Finicky.

No, it isn’t. A sourdough starter, or a sour dough, has just a few basic, simple needs: oxygen, warmth, and food. And it’s not even too picky about those. Oxygen is a given; leave a loose cover on the starter or dough so it can breathe. For warmth, anything around room temperature will do. The food can come in the form of any flour you’re using at the time. Whole wheat pastry flour, whole wheat flour (red or white) and spelt flour all take turns in my starter; I feed the starter whatever I’m using for baking.

4. Sourdough Is Just For Flavor.

Sourdough foods have complex and compelling flavors, no doubt. Consider the distinctive San Fransisco sour tang, or fluffy Alaskan sourdough pancakes drizzled with pure maple syrup. But I love sourdough for two other reasons.

A gift from God. Prior to this century and the development of commercial yeast, folks used a sourdough starter’s wild organisms for rising and lifting doughs. Leavened bread in the Bible? Sourdough all the way. When I see a warm soured dough rising in my kitchen, I praise God for the amazing and practical gift of sourdough.

More healthful. A sourdough starter is an ecosystem of wild yeasts and beneficial bacteria that work together to add B-vitamins to grains, to break down gluten for better digestion, and to neutralize phytic acid and enzyme inhibitors. In addition, the sourdough starter’s organisms are much more versatile than commercial yeast (with regard to temperature or other conditions) and sourdough bread doesn’t stale as quickly.

5. Sourdough Is Sour.

Sourdough can be sour, but it doesn’t have to be sour. Two chief practices contribute to “sour” sourdough.

Skipped feedings. Ideally, I believe we should feed a room temperature sourdough starter twice a day. A sourdough starter (the active mother culture) contains both wild yeasts and beneficial bacteria. Regular flour feedings keep the organisms fed and in balance. But missing a feeding gives the bacteria a leg up. You see, the yeasts run out of food when the simple sugars in flour are all consumed, and they start dying off. But the bacteria still have food to eat. They eat the expired yeasts, along with the yeasts’ wastes, and continue to produce lactic acid, the main sour flavor. And so the starter gets more sour.

Long souring period. When we create a dough with sourdough starter and let it rest, this is the souring, or fermentation, period. The yeasts and bacteria feed on the flours in the dough, and their byproducts are acids (offering flavor) and carbon dioxide (rising the dough). The longer the souring period, the more sour the flavor. For best nutrition, I recommend a good 8 hours of souring. Unless the weather is very hot, the flavor won’t be that sour, if at all. On the other hand, allowing the dough to ferment for 24 hours or more will yield a pronounced sour end product.

What can we learn from this? First, feed twice a day to keep all the organisms in balance and the overall sourness slight. Second, sour your dough for less time, rather than more.

By the way, have you heard the phrase, “soda sweetens”? It’s true! Many sourdough recipes (including these pancakes, english muffins, or waffles) call for baking soda. Not only does the baking soda react with the starter to give a good rise, but it sweetens the dough or batter by neutralizing some of the acidic taste.

Are you interested in easy sourdough recipes, video demonstrations, and mouth-watering results? I welcome you to participate in the Sourdough eCourse, where I and other teachers guide you in mastering simple, tasty, nutritious sourdough. We are always open for enrollment; you can join us any time your schedule allows. God bless you all!

Wardeh (‘Wardee’) Harmon lives in Oregon with her husband and three children. They raise ducks and dairy goats on five and a half gorgeous wooded acres, which they are in the process of turning into a productive homestead. Wardeh’s passions are healthy cooking and sewing practical wool garments, although she loves to create just about anything from scratch, should the mood hit right. Wardeh teaches traditional and whole food cooking at the GNOWFGLINS blog and GNOWFGLINS eCourse.

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