Comments on: Adjusting to Life with Two

By: Mera Ladd

Mera Ladd — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 02:41:58 +0000

Hi there,
I just found your blog and really love your ministry here. Great job, love the natural recipes the best. I wanted to tell you that going from one to two is so hard. I have an 8 month old and a 2.5 year old. This was a huge, emotional change but the more they interact and giggle and laugh together and the times I see my husband interacting with both our babies, I just glow inside. It did take about 4 months that I wasn’t crying all the time though, I think while you are breastfeeding, your emotions run wild We women are tough and it is hard to manage the attitudes of a toddler and provide a calm respite for hubby but through Him, we can do anything. Congrats on your new arrival and I can’t wait to read more. Many blessings!

By: Mrs

Mrs — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 18:56:07 +0000

Just found your blog!

These are the Biblical truths I wish a Titus 2 woman would have told me 20 years ago. I am only NOW finding peace in my role as wife and mother because of God’s gracious work in me.

Blogs like yours will encourage the next generation, as I pray to do! My children are now 20, 16, and 12. My greatest joy is cleaning their clothes, feeding their bellies, and homeschooling them. WHO would have thought I could have such peace by dying to self?

By: Lauren Z

Lauren Z — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 19:02:58 +0000

We’re expecting our second one sometime this fall, but unfortunately, most of these suggestions for keeping the older one busy won’t work for us. My older child is only going to be, essentially, about 9 months old. He was born 3 months prematurely, so his real age will be around 12 months, but his adjusted/developmental age will be about 9 months. I suppose it’ll just be somewhat similar to having twins! Any specific suggestions for my situation? Oh, and there’s a good chance I’ll have to have a C-section (my first one was a T-cut), especially since they’ll be so close together, and technically I’m not going to be able to pick up my older child because he’ll be too heavy for after a C. My husband’s family lives a mile away, and I know they’ll be a great help!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 16:06:17 +0000

It DOES get better! I have 4 boys, and 2 of them were 14 monthes apart, the next 2 were 28 months apart. But you have the right idea, if you don;t keep reading the Word everyday AND have time for you to rest, you might as well forget being a good wife and mother, because it ust won’t happen!

Preparing ahead is another great thing you are doing, especially since you have 2 little ones that can’t do much for themselves! Lots of planning ahead does make it a lot less stressful in the long run. And keeping organized helps too. Even when you can’t keep everything spic-n-span, you still have a spot for everything, and most things can find their ways back to these spots in time and make it all easier. This really helps in training yopur child to help out too, because they always know where certain things are kept.

By: Creative2xmom

Creative2xmom — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 23:30:22 +0000

I just wanted to second all your thoughts. When Baby Girl joined us, I was so overwhelmed. Hubby started talking of planting a church, buying a home here for exquity, and added a second child to the mix. And there may have been some postpartum mixed in there as well. The first year was long. But we’ve since found our groove, and continuing to thrive. Best of luck and love to you as you cut yourself some slack and welcome a new little one into your home.

By: Kate

Kate — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 17:05:12 +0000

I did the bottles for the next day the night before, if you are going the same route this time around, try it that way. That way I could clean or do laundry while they slept. And on a very rare occasion, SLEEP lol.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 09:22:13 +0000

I did find a used moby wrap for our little guy this second time around and love it as well! It is so wonderful to be snuggling with him while being completely hands free!

By: MommyAmy

MommyAmy — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 04:23:54 +0000

Sounds like you’ve learned a lot in such a short time Mothering two.

By: Katie

Katie — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 03:33:43 +0000

I almost hate to comment because there are so many already, but the absolute BEST thing to balance two children (and, I think, naturally the way God intends us to stay close to our babies) is a sling. I fell in love with my Moby Wrap with my second child. We were even able to survive (thrive) on a rustic camping trip with a 3-year-old and a 2-month-old. I could play kickball, make dinner, have a dance party, ETC, all while snuggling my little one. Sometimes she was asleep, and sometimes she was learning about the world from my perspective. I’m a big fan!

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:14:12 +0000

Shannon, I do highly recommend home birthing. My research has shown (from watching the Business of Being Born and reading Christian Childbirth Manual) that our hospitals are really not safer than giving birth at home. I believe the US has the third highest infant mortality rate in the world. Midwifes are amazingly knowledge women. They know if a situation deems it necessary to go to a hospital. If you are a safe distance from a hospital than you shouldn't be too concerned about that. I found Business of Being Born a powerfully informative video on comparing hospitals to home birthing. I recommend you watch that video and start reading a few natural birthing books. The Bradley birthing class is another excellent resource for preparing you for birth. Definitely pray together with your husband and make an informed decision for your family. I love home birthing because I find I can relax and be far more comfortable in my own home while birthing than at a hospital and this helps significantly in cutting down on the pain. I can move around freely which is another huge factor in handling pain. There just is so much freedom at home. It is very wise for you to do your research and come to a peaceful decision. To tell you the truth, fear is the biggest factor in increasing pain! Praying for you in this big decision!