I have lived most of my life quite feministically, but that mindset has changed quite dramatically for me recently. I am 29 & single, & for the past 6-7 yrs have been quite happy in my singleness to the point of not really caring to every get married, much less have children. Then, out of the blue, about 3 months or so ago, something changed. It wasn’t all of a sudden but one day I just realized I was looking up sites on homemaking (cooking, cleaning, organizing, etc…). When I realized what I was doing, I was agast. “Was I actually considering the idea of becoming a housewife one day or even a stay-at-home mom?!” Then I got this peace & excitement about the idea come over me that I never thought I would feel towards family life. I’m still single with no prospects at the moment but I had also recently came to the same conclusion as you, that I should be using this time to prepare for homemaking. Whether I am ever blessed with a husband or not, I can use these servant & hospitality skills now & in the future.

Living alone & rarely ever having company, I have let my apartment go. I confess, I am lazy & messy. However, I feel that God is calling me to get my life sorted out now, to start practicing the art of homemaking now so that that is one less hurdle I may have to face as a newlywed. Last night I ordered several books on the subject of home organization & homemaking and today, I spent the whole day cleaning my closet & bedroom. It still is quite messy but it is a start.

If I am ever blessed with a husband & he supports the idea of me being a housewife, my main concern will be with dealing with my parents. They are Christians & want the best for me but my mom is a bit of a feminist & my dad is often concerned about finances. Basically, neither would want to see me “waste my career/degree.” Anyway, that is just a bridge I’ll have to cross if & when I get there. I guess I better start praying about that now.

So sorry this is long. I aspire to write one day, so I use that as an excuse for long emails & responses. Anyway, one last thing. I’ll look in some of your other posts but I have been looking for a list of areas of discipline for homemakers; such as finances, cooking, cleaning, etc… I guess those are the big three but is there anything you would add to the list? I do realize, kids would be added if there were children, but other than them or even including them, what would you add? I’m a planner/researcher so when ever I take on a project (learning to be a good homemaker) I make folders with plans in it. In this case I would probably have a folder for finances, one for cooking, & one for cleaning. That is just so you can have a glimpse into my psychosis.

I am so blessed to be learning now, while my daughter is young, the things that I can do to train her well and encourage her towards Biblical womanhood. Go give your mom a huge for me, ok?

Blessings!