Comments on: The Art of Being A Well-Dressed Wife – Part 2 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html Loving simple and natural living on a budget Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:01:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Annelise http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-22316 Annelise Wed, 17 Mar 2010 14:33:02 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-22316 One thing I plan to start doing- sure, wear that old tee shirt and jogging pants, or those old jeans, when you're home alone and have a lot of cleaning to do. But before your husband comes home, take a few minutes to dress in something nicer, take your hair out of the ponytail, and so on. My husband hates makeup, and I'm glad, because anything other than mineral foundation or tinted lip balm makes me break out like crazy. I put some of both on and I'm ready to go! He loves that I can get ready and look pretty at the same time in about 10 minutes or less. One thing I plan to start doing- sure, wear that old tee shirt and jogging pants, or those old jeans, when you’re home alone and have a lot of cleaning to do. But before your husband comes home, take a few minutes to dress in something nicer, take your hair out of the ponytail, and so on.

My husband hates makeup, and I’m glad, because anything other than mineral foundation or tinted lip balm makes me break out like crazy. I put some of both on and I’m ready to go! He loves that I can get ready and look pretty at the same time in about 10 minutes or less.

]]> By: Ashley http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-18468 Ashley Fri, 18 Dec 2009 02:59:09 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-18468 Really enjoyed this:) I understand how hard it is, everyday is so different, some days I wake up full of energy, ready to scrub toilets and bake batches of homemade bread and muffins while slipping into something attractive but comfortable for when my hubby gets home. Then other days I just wanna stay in bed, I don't end up showering until about midday and my two year old is running around with boogers hanging out of her nose and a saggy stinky diaper:) Its something I've had to pray about and work on. My problem is I too often strive for perfection and if perfection cannot be met then I give up. I see now this has set me up to fail many times! Instead, I make it my routine to at least look nice and get ready, even if I'm not going anywhere. I then do my daily rounds of pick around the house and one big chore, like cleaning one bathroom, or even one toilet! As long as SOMETHING big in the cleaning area gets done. It really helps me to keep up on the house work and makes me feel as though I've accomplished something. Making it a habit to take at least 10 minutes every morning to shower and put on a little make up and something comfortable yet attractive just sets the tone for the day! Getting my two year old dressed and cleaned up before breakfast helps too:) We have routine and yet there is room for changes in the plan:) Thanks for posting this:) it really helps and it is such an encouragement:) Especially to be able to read what other women have written....love the clothes swapping idea:) Really enjoyed this:) I understand how hard it is, everyday is so different, some days I wake up full of energy, ready to scrub toilets and bake batches of homemade bread and muffins while slipping into something attractive but comfortable for when my hubby gets home. Then other days I just wanna stay in bed, I don’t end up showering until about midday and my two year old is running around with boogers hanging out of her nose and a saggy stinky diaper:) Its something I’ve had to pray about and work on. My problem is I too often strive for perfection and if perfection cannot be met then I give up. I see now this has set me up to fail many times! Instead, I make it my routine to at least look nice and get ready, even if I’m not going anywhere. I then do my daily rounds of pick around the house and one big chore, like cleaning one bathroom, or even one toilet! As long as SOMETHING big in the cleaning area gets done. It really helps me to keep up on the house work and makes me feel as though I’ve accomplished something. Making it a habit to take at least 10 minutes every morning to shower and put on a little make up and something comfortable yet attractive just sets the tone for the day! Getting my two year old dressed and cleaned up before breakfast helps too:) We have routine and yet there is room for changes in the plan:)
Thanks for posting this:) it really helps and it is such an encouragement:) Especially to be able to read what other women have written….love the clothes swapping idea:)

]]> By: Jen http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-16030 Jen Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:51:17 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-16030 Really, I have issues with this whole topic. For starters, I"m not a stay-at-home mom. I work full time. I'm in the office three days a week, and I work from home two days a week. My husband and I make the same amount of money. I do wear sweats and lounge pants a lot when at home. Who cares? It's practical. When you're wiping noses, breastfeeding, etc., it is purely impractical to be well-dressed. At work, it's another story, I do dress well then. Secondly, big point here: We should care about our appearances for our own selves. For our self-esteem. For valuing ourselves as beautiful women. It is not about satisfying my husband. Dressing well when I can makes me feel better about myself, which in turn makes me a better wife. It starts with self-esteem, ladies. I choose my clothes because it's what I want to wear, what I feel looks good on me. And when I feel good in them, it shows. I stand taller, smile more, etc ... and THAT'S what my husband cares about. Really, I have issues with this whole topic. For starters, I”m not a stay-at-home mom. I work full time. I’m in the office three days a week, and I work from home two days a week. My husband and I make the same amount of money.

I do wear sweats and lounge pants a lot when at home. Who cares?
It’s practical. When you’re wiping noses, breastfeeding, etc., it is purely impractical to be well-dressed. At work, it’s another story, I do dress well then.

Secondly, big point here: We should care about our appearances for our own selves. For our self-esteem. For valuing ourselves as beautiful women. It is not about satisfying my husband. Dressing well when I can makes me feel better about myself, which in turn makes me a better wife. It starts with self-esteem, ladies.

I choose my clothes because it’s what I want to wear, what I feel looks good on me. And when I feel good in them, it shows. I stand taller, smile more, etc … and THAT’S what my husband cares about.

]]> By: Lindsay http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-15196 Lindsay Fri, 18 Sep 2009 21:22:56 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-15196 Dear sister, Have you considered doing the <a href="http://www.reviveourhearts.com/challenge/" rel="nofollow">30 day husband encouragement challenge</a>? It may just help you see what a real blessing you can be to your husband and how God can renew your perspective in you role as a wife and mother. You are far more valuable to him than you realize. It may seem like you are just serving him food, but you are his cheerleader! Support him, encourage him, love him and see that man flourish! It sounds like you just need to find renewed perspective in your role. I would also encourage you to check out <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1879737604?ie=UTF8&tag=passionhomema-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1879737604" rel="nofollow">Womanly Dominion</a>. A worthwhile read! Dear sister, Have you considered doing the 30 day husband encouragement challenge? It may just help you see what a real blessing you can be to your husband and how God can renew your perspective in you role as a wife and mother. You are far more valuable to him than you realize. It may seem like you are just serving him food, but you are his cheerleader! Support him, encourage him, love him and see that man flourish! It sounds like you just need to find renewed perspective in your role. I would also encourage you to check out Womanly Dominion. A worthwhile read!

]]> By: julie http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-14918 julie Thu, 17 Sep 2009 17:45:01 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-14918 It doesn't matter. My husband goes into a rant about how awful his day was and then plays with the kids for a little while before plopping in front of the computer or the t.v. I'm extremely thankful that he is a Christian and does love our kids, but his a.d.h.d. (which he's on meds for) combined with job stress make me just someone who fetches him food and makes his lunch. I don't have money anyway and he wants me to wear "office wear". That just isn't practical. It doesn’t matter. My husband goes into a rant about how awful his day was and then plays with the kids for a little while before plopping in front of the computer or the t.v. I’m extremely thankful that he is a Christian and does love our kids, but his a.d.h.d. (which he’s on meds for) combined with job stress make me just someone who fetches him food and makes his lunch. I don’t have money anyway and he wants me to wear “office wear”. That just isn’t practical.

]]> By: Mrs. W http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-14635 Mrs. W Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:48:20 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-14635 I've never done that, but I've found that asking my husband what he thinks of my clothes has helped a lot. I've found out what he's hated to see me in, and also what are his favorites. So, even if I just have a few shirts and bottoms in the closet, I know he likes them all. :) I’ve never done that, but I’ve found that asking my husband what he thinks of my clothes has helped a lot. I’ve found out what he’s hated to see me in, and also what are his favorites. So, even if I just have a few shirts and bottoms in the closet, I know he likes them all. :)

]]> By: Mrs. W http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-14634 Mrs. W Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:45:26 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-14634 :) God bless you, Stephanie. I'm sure your husband is delighted to have you. :) God bless you, Stephanie. I’m sure your husband is delighted to have you.

]]> By: Lauren http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-10676 Lauren Mon, 25 May 2009 19:05:57 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-10676 For the ladies on a budget, I have a suggestion. Several of my friends and I recently did a clothing swap party. Everyone brought clothes they didn't want anymore(all different sizes and styles), and we "shopped" through each other's piles. I was able to get rid of some clothes I hadn't worn in ages, and pick up some really great "new" outfits for free! When everyone was finished with their "shopping", we still had bags and bags of clothes leftover that we took to Goodwill. This was also a great way to get feedback from other ladies about what looks good and what doesn't look so great. This idea can be extended to include accessories or home-wares, too. For the ladies on a budget, I have a suggestion. Several of my friends and I recently did a clothing swap party. Everyone brought clothes they didn’t want anymore(all different sizes and styles), and we “shopped” through each other’s piles. I was able to get rid of some clothes I hadn’t worn in ages, and pick up some really great “new” outfits for free! When everyone was finished with their “shopping”, we still had bags and bags of clothes leftover that we took to Goodwill. This was also a great way to get feedback from other ladies about what looks good and what doesn’t look so great. This idea can be extended to include accessories or home-wares, too.

]]> By: stephanie http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-4682 stephanie Mon, 03 Nov 2008 16:04:29 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-4682 heather, i agree. whoever came up with 50/50 marriage was sadly mistaken. putting forth 100% to my marriage allows me to remain blameless towards the Lord in this area, and to stop looking out for my own needs all the time. i do think the same rings true for both men and women (and i believe that's what the Bible teaches), but i'm not responsible for my husband's 100%. i am learning to just try to be like Christ in my marriage. he loves us with no pre-conditions. heather, i agree. whoever came up with 50/50 marriage was sadly mistaken. putting forth 100% to my marriage allows me to remain blameless towards the Lord in this area, and to stop looking out for my own needs all the time. i do think the same rings true for both men and women (and i believe that’s what the Bible teaches), but i’m not responsible for my husband’s 100%. i am learning to just try to be like Christ in my marriage. he loves us with no pre-conditions.

]]> By: Heather T. http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2008/09/the-art-of-being-a-well-dressed-wife-part-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-4670 Heather T. Sun, 02 Nov 2008 09:22:57 +0000 http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/?p=1536#comment-4670 Applause! You strike the balance between the 50/50 culture (you do this and then I'll do this) and the sometimes-overzealous women who only point to the woman's responsibility. Both extremes bother me, and I happily echo your sentiments. :-) ~ Heather Applause! You strike the balance between the 50/50 culture (you do this and then I’ll do this) and the sometimes-overzealous women who only point to the woman’s responsibility. Both extremes bother me, and I happily echo your sentiments. :-)

~ Heather

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