I have recently had some discussions with my husband about just this subject. He wanted me to stop worrying about whether or not he got to have everything he wanted, and I was horrified by the thought that there was something that I was not providing for him. So now I have some thinking to do.

Over the last few years I have seen some amazing results from my submission to my husband. Things I never would have expected. Mostly in the way of the types of criticisms I can successfully make when my attitude is a humble/submissive one.

Here’s how it works itself out: When my husband is secure in my respect for his leadership, I can say almost anything. Literally. Just open up with the most unfiltered feelings. . . and he’s cool. He receives it as additional information, as opposed to an attack against his identity. He senses me respect for him and knows that my frustration is not a result of a lack of trust in him but from other source. So he doesn’t take it personally.

In this way, practicing the self-restraint that submission often requires has actually given me a deeper more satisfying freedom. I am able to be more emotionally honest with my husband without destroying our relationship. Then his love flows more freely to me and that gives an even deeper satisfaction. . .(insert doxology)!!

(please don’t read this and think that I go around browbeating my husband every time I get upset about something. When I was first introduced to the concept of Submission, I kind of went the other way and held my tongue about everything. I have since found that I am able to be much more free than I thought I was going to be able to be, and that has been really cool.)